Goals are like Rock Climbing

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January 16, 2017 by Darlene McC

Two weeks ago, like many of us, I was contemplating my goals for the coming year. Gazing out the window of the light rail as it crawled it’s way through downtown Jersey City, the sun was rising through the Manhattan skyline and the buildings shimmered around me.  It was a magic moment to think about what I want this year and what did or didn’t work last year.

The first week of Jan was a crossroads. I just bought a new house and this was only the second day of my new commute. Surrounded by glimmering morning light, transitioning out of two very difficult years into the hope of our new home.

I revisited an old metaphor- something I played with a few years ago.  

Goal setting is like a long, multi-pitch climb.

See, in climbing the lead person will climb up, making their way and setting the rope.  They’ll rest at an anchor point (often a ledge) while their partner comes to meet them.  You might pause a moment, enjoying the ledge and the sunshine, and then get back to work.

So often goals are like that. We make progress, we work so hard, and then we pause for only a moment before finding something more to accomplish.

Or, like me in 2015 and 2016, you climb carefully back down from the wrong line, lose a little gear along the way, and then try to figure out where you went wrong.

The climb can be thrilling.

Many clients and friends get frustrated that they aren’t content on the ledge. For me, part of the joy is the climbing. The work, the growing & changing. Finding the next move to make myself and my clients better.

Revel in the change, enjoy the little rest, and then look up to the next great challenge.

Happy 2017.

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