Condensed Milk

Leave a comment

March 5, 2013 by Darlene McC

A client story for you today about frustration, indulgence, and ultimately acceptance.  My dear client, lets call her “Stephanie”, has the best of intentions when she proclaims things like “I’m not going to eat dairy for awhile” during our sessions.  I’ve been working on getting her to cut back her alcohol; but if she wants to try dairy then okay.  Why not.  (More on choosing realistic and helpful changes another time.)

This morning “Stephanie” painted a scene for me (shared with her permission).  Over the weekend she was making a traditional Brazilian dish for her son & husband.  “Steph” spent the few days prior completely dairy free, as per her announcement on Thursday.  Pissed about something else, wanting to feel in control of something; she pops open the can of condensed milk and gazes at it in enraged frustration.  “Fuck it!” she thinks, putting it to her lips…and she downs the entire can! 

woman_screaming

Of course, “Stephanie” is mildly ashamed of herself while recounting this tale; though I can’t help but laugh a little with her.  Because we’ve all been there.  Despite our best intentions and well made plans we drink the milk.  And not just a little milk.  We down the entire can.  My grandmother was once shamed by the rest of the family for eating an entire box of cookies despite being on Weight Watchers.  It just happens.

But at this moment we have two choices: to beat ourselves up & admit defeat, or enjoy that condensed milk for all it’s worth and try again as soon as possible.

How often have you ‘slipped’ on your plan and declared yourself a failure?  “I had a cookie, I guess I’m not paleo.”  “I didn’t go to the gym, maybe I should cancel the membership.”  And how often do you beat yourself up in the process?  In that moment you needed to satisfy an urge; that does not mean all future moments have to be that way.  So you drank the can!  Big deal.  You didn’t have the entire case.  And, I’m proud to say, “Stephanie” has been spot on her nutrition since!

drink up!

drink up!

So “drink the can” sometimes.  Just make sure it’s not every time and things will be alright.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Instagram

Little sister, all grown up. How blessed am I to have been a part of your perfect day. To get to share in your joy, and thereby multiply it with everyone else who came to celebrate. . Stunning 📸 by @stephanie.mccauley . 20 years ago our parents met. But I think our 5 siblings are the ones who really made out on this deal. . . #love #positiveemotionproject #bride #bridesmaid #fallwedding #bonussister #littlesister #perfectday #sisters
We're so good at making relationships complicated- with others and with ourselves! 🤦‍♀️ But when I peel away the layers of pain, defensiveness, and unhelpful patterns I'm left with 3 truths: 1️⃣ We're all human (I think👽) 2️⃣ We all have something to contribute. Unique combinations of skills and interests. Our passions and what we care about. They lead us to contributions that no one can make. And your world needs to what YOU can bring into it. 3️⃣ We all make mistakes - you. Me. Your boss. Your parents. Your kids. @msrachelhollis & @tonyrobbins . everybody. When you accept that you can forgive yourself and others for their human-ness. No one comes out perfect. We're all a work in progress. If you can accept this you can stop expecting perfection from yourself and others. Do these 3 ring true for you? Which of them do you struggle to accept and live? #growandchange #growthmindset #coaching #coachmentality #selfdevelopment #human #humanrace #acceptance #acceptyourself #weallmakemistakes
💃 . 📸 @brittanyboote . #joy #dance #curlyhairdontcare #curlyhair #weddingphotography #danceparty #dancelikenooneswatching #twirl #twirldress #letitgo #iloveweddings
Grad school update! 🤓 I haven't been posting often because I've been LEARNING! It's been wonderful so far, but it's also like trying to jam a watermelon into a teacup. 🍉🍵 😳 My brain is so full I'm worried it will pop. What are your go-to strategies when your mind is fizzling but you still have things to accomplish? 👇 . . #penn #pennmapp #levelup #gradstudent #gradschool #mapp15 #mappster
A little background on the positive emotion stories I've been posting. 😎 Positive emotions are essential to our wellbeing, building personal resilience & strong communities. Have some feedback or a question suggestion? Hit up those comments 👇👇 🤗 Play along in my stories the rest of this year 💗 . 🤓 #positivity #positiveemotion #positiveemotionproject #positivepsychology #mapp #mapp15 #penn #upenn #coach #coachmentality #levelup #curlyhairdontcare #curlyhair
Bringing sexy back 💪 After the intensity of Sept, it feels so good to get back to routine.
%d bloggers like this: