Wisdom Wednesday: This Brief Lifetime

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January 9, 2013 by Darlene McC

Pema Chödrön is an American Tibetan Buddhist and prolific writer of Buddhist philosophy for a Western audience.  The beauty of her words and simple depth of her ideas continue to surprise me.  This little gem is #23 in her pocket reference guide, titled “This Brief Lifetime”.
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