Silence – for yourself and others

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November 18, 2012 by Darlene McC

Instead of the normal Sunday goal setting post today I want to share an article from Tim Kreider in today’s New York Times opinion pages called The Quiet Ones. (Please go read it.  It’s really good.)

The piece is about the Amtrak Quiet Car on the surface; but it’s also about individuals who are unable to, for whatever reason, be quiet for a time.  I used to be one such person (and sometimes probably still am).  Back when I was dating my husband, a man of very few words, I can recall countless dates where I would prattle on, so uncomfortable with the pauses in conversation that came up.  I was raised on a diet of constant banter and little quiet reflection.

I notice now when I go back home: even though I live in “noisy” New York City everyone from my home town speaks as if they’re yelling!  Though I’m only a few feet from them I would absolutely be able to hear them from the next room.  I can’t help but wonder to myself when did everyone get so loud?

Today I challenge you to sit, just sit, for a time.  Listen to your own breath, the sounds outside, or the hum of whatever electronics live in your home with you.  Enjoy the quiet.  Maybe read a book after a little while.  Be hyper-aware of your surroundings for a time and in tune with your world.  It’ll probably do you some good.

 

3 thoughts on “Silence – for yourself and others

  1. jmccull171 says:

    I have always loved silence. It is difficult for me to live in the sounds of the modern world. Thanks for encouraging others to try being comfortable with being quiet.

  2. dellaterra says:

    Silence is so profound when we take the time to sit with
    it. Thank you for your thoughts

  3. Halbach says:

    Naturally I quite like this post thoroughly, hope you will probably come up with more information on this.

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